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By Beth Hayward |
Wedding: On Second Thought, I
Wouldn't Elope
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During the ceremony, I was moved by the power of emotion in the room, an outpouring of blessing and joy. Later, during the limo ride to the reception, we laughed and joked, toasting the couple and drinking champagne.
Mind you, I am not thinking all this time, "Wow - how much is this costing? To rent the tuxedos, the limo, the flowers, and for goodness sake that beaded designer dress with the train a block long." I am in the moment, enjoying the pomp.
At the reception, there are Godiva chocolates, wine, more flowers, and a string quartet. Then dinner, presented beautifully. The bride and groom cut the multi-tiered cake at the table with an ice sculpture. Finally, there's the grand wedding dance, a full orchestra. It was all just fantastic.
Lisa had gone all out on the details of her wedding, and spared no expense. She had started organizing almost two years before the event! She had to: the church, the reception hall, the caterer, all these are booked way in advance.
If you want a full wedding, start early. By the time of the big day, Lisa had every detail in order.
Having been behind the scenes, I had a good sense of how much effort went into putting that one special day together. And while I didn't know the exact amount, I'm pretty sure the grand total of expense would easily have covered the down payment on a house.
Between what I perceived as stress for organizing the details, plus the issue of paying for all of it, when my mate and I decided to get married, we both agreed rather quickly to elope.
Booking tickets to Hawaii, reserving a condo, and arranging the paperwork for a civil ceremony were as many details as I wanted to manage.
My husband and I had a wonderful time on Maui, with a brief ceremony performed by a friendly judge who spoke a traditional Hawaiian blessing to us. Our wedding party was a luau, and then we came home. Married.
There is no point having regrets, yet if I had it to do over again, I wouldn't elope. A marriage is something between two people. A wedding is for the strength of your community.
The ceremony and ritual around it, having your family and friends bear witness as you make your commitment to your spouse - that's a cause for celebration. And participation in rituals like weddings is what connects us and makes our bonds with one another strong.
It isn't necessary to have a designer dress, a sit-down dinner, a full orchestra. What is important is the presence of people you care for and who care for you to be there and to witness the occasion when you promise to love and to cherish one person for the rest of your life.
It is an important occasion that deserves ceremony and celebration.
Beth Hayward's articles on topics related to weddings are published at First Class Wedding , a premier resource on-line for information about weddings. For addtional articles by Beth, visit Flowers eShop and RK Baby
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