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All About Love: What Is a Healthy Relationship?
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Desperate, worried people tend to be possessive, jealous, clinging, whiny, and/or unreasonable. So is it any wonder that this type of obsessive love can actually alienate the object of such an overwhelming, all-consuming love? Everyone needs some psychic space, and having such anxious demands placed on you can be suffocating. Who among us feels capable of living up to such high standards as making someone else deliriously happy?
Extremely needy people tend to be 'high maintenance' in a love relationship, sometimes even in a simple friendship. It's not much fun to realize the person you care about (and once even thought you might want to marry) is constantly keeping score. It begins to feel as though you'll never "pass Go" but will usually land "in Jail." But love shouldn't be a Monopoly game. There needs to be plenty of room for each partner to stretch, and grow. Gluing two separate people together is not just symbiotic but potentially dysfunctional.
So, how do you view your own relationship, to measure just how healthy it is? After evaluating whether you're mostly happy and content, or mostly sad and worried, you might want to consider the basic ingredients or characteristics -- all right, call them Strengths -- of a healthy relationship, as follows:
(1) What each of us expects from the other is fair and
realistic.
(2) We are happy with one another, as we are.
(3) Each of us listens to the other, and cares.
(4) There is ample room for each of us to have a separate life/self. We know
we are two separate people who choose to be together and grow/nurture a
wonderful, loving relationship.
(5) We can argue or disagree, and remain friends.
(6) Each of us has come to rely on the other, because we value our
relationship as a top priority.
(7) Mutual communication and sharing is valued by each of us.
(8) Neither of us must be something or someone other than what we are, to
please the other.
(9) Total honesty is a shared value, as well as kindness and sensitivity
toward one another's feelings.
(10) Our relationship works well now, not as an unfulfilled goal to be hoped
for in the future.
(11) We are both committed to the relationship, and to one another. Neither
of us threatens to leave.
(12) We love and care for one another, unconditionally
How many of those strengths does your relationship have? Remember, if yours seems to be lacking, it's not necessarily time to end it all -- because every relationship or marriage can be improved, if both parties are willing to work together to achieve that goal. Don't settle for mediocre, when you can shoot for and really have Miraculous!
------- Stephania edits a twice-monthly HTML ezine, Tidbits from the Pantry, that is currently sent to more than 11,000 opt-in subscribers. She recently retired after 40 years in the field of human services, and offers a free evaluation of a life problem to any subscriber by email.
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